Are Your Personal Beliefs Holding You Back?
Your beliefs about yourself and your life have more power over your existence than you can imagine. Personal ideas and values you have held for a long time can block the way toward a life you desire. Identify your unhelpful beliefs and replace them with positive ones. It is time to refocus…
Examine some beliefs that may be hampering you in your efforts to live the good life:
“I ought to let go of my dreams because I’m unable achieve them.” A couple of unhelpful things happen when you think this way. First, it seems you may feel undeserving of the dreams you have and are, therefore, sabotaging yourself. Second, you’re likely not doing anything to move closer to how you want to live.
One way to alter this belief is to ponder how to follow your dreams. Make a list of the steps required to achieve the life you crave. Look at them as stair steps. Then, begin “climbing” those steps toward your future, one by one.
Your new belief might sound something like, “I’m following my dreams starting today and will celebrate each step I achieve along the way.”
Always remember, your dreams were given to you by God. If they weren’t achievable, then why are they passionately set in your heart?
“I don’t have the right to ask for what I want because I fear rejection.” This belief indicates you feel less important than others. You see your wants and needs as not relevant to others. Living with this belief means you likely keep your true feelings under wraps and simply go along to get along with others. There’ll be no rocking the boat from you.
The fact is that your feelings are equally as valuable as everyone else’s. Consider changing this belief to, “I am important and how I feel matters to me. I can diplomatically ask for what I want. Others may disagree, but I can handle it.”
Remember that God chose you, He created you and there isn’t anything unseen or unknown to Him, and He fully loves you!!
When you can state your wants or needs tactfully and honestly without anger, those close to you will probably listen well and respond to them.
However, if they have a negative response, remind yourself that you have no control over the feelings of others. As Dr. Seuss once said, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”.
You do have control over your own feelings and actions. Therefore, ask for what you want. Recognize that you can listen to others’ responses, but you’re not responsible for how they feel.
You will never know until you ask…
“I’m not going to trust anyone again.” This belief may stem from a time in your past when someone you trusted hurt you.
Perhaps, when you were a youngster, your parents were unsupportive or tough on you. Or in a prior close relationship, you felt betrayed or that your feelings were minimized. Whatever the case, it sounds like you’re afraid to trust and you’re trying to protect yourself from further emotional hurt.
Alter this belief by giving yourself permission to trust. If you pledge not to trust again, it likely means you’ll not have another loving relationship. Forgive whoever or whatever was afflicted, and you will be set free.
Recognize that you probably learned something positive from the prior relationship. You have grown and your ideas about what you want are clearer now.
You can adopt a belief something like, “In order to have a relationship, I must invest in it. It may be scary at first, but I can do it.” It is the things we invest in that we cherish.
“I don’t make enough money to live a financially secure life.” This belief puts a heavy cloak over your efforts to be happy. When you think this way, you fail to see what you can do to save for your future. Your emotional health is intimately connected to how you feel about your financial life.
Open the door to a more secure financial and emotional life by adjusting your belief to, “I have control over my finances and I can save X dollars per week.”
When you believe you can live within or below your financial means and still save, you’ll discover you can enjoy your life.
Remember that where God leads, He provides & He takes care of His children. Trust Him and don’t lust over things of the world. If we stay humble and do our part, then everything will indeed work out for our greater good. I can’t count the number of times I had nothing, once I lost everything, that somehow, I never lacked, God comes through – trust Him.
Perform a thorough self-examination of your major beliefs and values. What do you think about yourself? Are your thoughts and beliefs preventing you from achieving a healthy relationship, establishing monetary security, or living the dream life you yearn for? Banish your limiting beliefs forever, starting now.
Many people receive their very success from discussing the power of manifestation, the power of the mind. But words are power, they are our very existence as God spoke and our whole being was created, He gave His children the ability to speak, and when you bring everything to the Cross, everything changes.
